Is there anything wrong in being single?

In the society in which we live in there is a tendency to put people into different classes. Have you ever tried filling in an application form or membership form and you are asked to tick your group. Are you single or married ?

 Organisations do this for various reasons, however it is sad when it is used to stereotype a person.  Society sometimes look at married people more favourably than others, but is this view accurate according to scripture?

 When Jesus was physically on earth the Pharisees asked him a question. Matthew 19:2-9 And great multitudes followed him; and he healed them there.  The Pharisees also came unto him, tempting him, and saying unto him, Is it lawful for a man to put away his wife for every cause?  And he answered and said unto them, Have ye not read, that he which made them at the beginning made them male and female.

 And said, For this cause shall a man leave father and mother, and shall cleave to his wife: and they twain shall be one flesh?  Wherefore they are no more twain, but one flesh. What therefore God hath joined together, let not man put asunder.  They say unto him, Why did Moses then command to give a writing of divorcement, and to put her away?  He saith unto them, Moses because of the hardness of your hearts suffered you to put away your wives: but from the beginning it was not so.  And I say unto you, Whosoever shall put away his wife, except it be for fornication, and shall marry another, committeth adultery: and whoso marrieth her which is put away doth commit adultery.

His disciples then responded and said: If the case of the man be so with his wife, it is not good to marry. Jesus then responded and said All men cannot receive this saying, save they to whom it is given.  For there are some eunuchs, which were so born from their mother’s womb: and there are some eunuchs, which were made eunuchs of men: and there be eunuchs, which have made themselves eunuchs for the kingdom of heaven’s sake. He that is able to receive it, let him receive it. (Matthew 19: 10 – 12)

Notice the phrase ‘He that is able to receive it, let him receive it ‘. Jesus did not say that there was anything wrong in being single.

In the book of Corinthians this was Pauls response But I speak this by permission, and not of commandment.  For I would that all men were even as I myself. But every man hath his proper gift of God, one after this manner, and another after that.  I say therefore to the unmarried and widows, it is good for them if they abide even as I. (1 Corinthians 7: 7 – 8).

Here Paul says, there is nothing wrong in being single.

Yes but l am single and want to get married. No problem, trust the Lord and He will bring the right person into your life at the right time. Word of caution, do not rush and pick the wrong person for yourself.  Intentionally marrying the wrong person can be very costly.

While waiting be assured that there is nothing wrong with you.

The Lord expects both the married and the single to give themselves to the things of the Lord. I Corinthians 7: 29, But this I say, brethren, the time is short: it remaineth, that both they that have wives be as though they had none; (as though they were single caring for the things of the Lord). Verse 32:  But I would have you without carefulness. He that is unmarried careth for the things that belong to the Lord, how he may please the Lord:

Anything wrong in being single from the above verse no, a capital No.

If you are single and want to get married, don’t let it consume your life, The only way to stay content is to give yourself to the things of the Lord. In due season He will bring the right person across your path.

God is the God of the single and married. We are all equal in the eyes of the Lord. For there is no respect of persons with God. Don’t let society or married friends make you feel bad. Get your identity from the Word of God. The truth of the matter is that there is great advantage of being single provided the focus is caring for the things of the Lord.


Bisi Oladipupo


Posted on July 27, 2009, in Bible, Books, christian, Christian living, Christianity, Church, faith, Family, Relationships, Wisdom, Women. Bookmark the permalink. Leave a comment.

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