Why the contention?
Are you finding it difficult to do something that you know you should do? You know that you need to say sorry, or move out to a more affordable place but there are disagreements and contentions going on within you?
Or could it be there is another underlying factor that is contributing to this?
Lets have a look a this scripture:
Proverbs 13: 10
10 Only by pride cometh contention: but with the well advised is wisdom.
The meaning of contention include: disagreement, argument, and contest.
So why the contest? Could it be pride? The above scripture is very clear. It says contention is rooted in pride.
How can l go and say sorry, they will think l am a fool? O! she will think she has had her way. Why go and downsize, what will people now think about me driving a smaller car? The root of all this is pride.
The consequences of pride are very clear in scripture. Lets judge ourselves and obey and do what is right. Pride can be very subtle, if we are honest with ourselves, we all have subtle areas of pride in our lives.
We need to come before the Lord and ask Him to show us of areas were pride is hiding, judge and get rid of it. Do you need more grace? Then we need to get rid of the pride.
James 4: 6 But he giveth more grace. Wherefore he saith, God resisteth the proud, but giveth grace unto the humble.
Nobody can afford God resisting them. Lets humble ourselves, and get rid of the pride. Just to what you need to do.
If you feel you need to go and say sorry, just do it. If you have to downsize just do it. Forget about what people will think of you, and obey the Lord.